Sunday, 28 October 2012

5 Ways to Cope with the Loss of a Loved One

(Guest Post by Ryan Rivera)

5 Ways to Cope with the Loss of a Loved One

It’s hard to lose someone dear to you especially when you did not expect it to happen. But what can we know? None of us can really easily suppose or think of the possibility of someone we love dying. That’s why when their time comes, it’s really hard for those who were left to get over it and move on. Although the pain engraved by such a depressing and traumatic event may be forgotten in a few years or so, here are ways to help people slowly relieve their scars in a shorter time.

Calmly undergo the grief cycle
Dr. Elisabeth Kubler-Ross, a Swiss psychiatrist established this cycle about grieving.  It is believed that any people undergoing these traumatic events are filled with anxiety and depression that without careful consideration might develop serious illness. So it is important to calm down and believe in the comforting promise of this cycle where acceptance is believed to be achieved by all. Don’t be afraid to go through this cycle and don’t be scared to take the steps of recovering as you slowly erase the pain of losing someone from your heart.

Find comfort from those who are around you
Friends and families who are always with you in times of depression and troubles can help you pour out the pain you feel inside. You can spoil yourself through them; telling or asking them of whatever you need as you genuinely depend on them in your grievance period. Don’t avoid their sincere offers and suffer all alone. After all anything or anyone that’s about to crumble down needs support to hold on to. You may ask for some time alone.  However, you must avoid seclusion as much as possible.  Living a solitary life will only make it harder for you to move on after such loss.

Have a peaceful and positive perception
In painful times, your mind will take on all negative accounts of life making it harder for you to cope up. So counteract this state by forcing yourself to have a positive outlook. Always remember that nothing goes in stay in this material world.  We all live only once, so we must not waste our time entertaining those negative outlooks in life. One effective way is by joining yoga sessions that helps a lot in refreshing your mind. You may also indulge in other meditational exercises as these will help you get rid of negative thoughts and become more focused on what really matters in life.

Don’t forget how to live
During these times, you have to take care of yourself all the more. Engage in activities that you find comfort and entertainment so you can calm down. Treat yourself to reasonable leisure and maintain your health by eating and sleeping regularly. This may seem unfair to ask of you while you’re mourning but it’s important and necessary so you won’t risk your own life. Taking care of your overall health is definitely part of coping with grief and loss. Just because your loved one has died does not mean you should take your life for granted. Although you may never be able to live your life the way it was when you still haven’t lost your loved one but, there are many ways on how you can improve and keep it going no matter how tough life is going to be.

Let your faith guide you
Remember the teachings and the wisdom you hear in your religion. Seek comfort in His divine promises and all that He can do for you. Believe in Him and know that everything happens for a reason and that everything happened for the benefit of those who love Him. If you’re a nonbeliever, we’re not imposing on you about this but if you really feel crushed right now and you’re stuck in an unexplainable circumstance, there is no harm in trying to call out for Him. No one will judge you and no one knows but Him so feel free to do so.
Finally, to all those who are mourning, remember that it isn’t necessary to forget and let go of the person you lost so you can recover but what you have to forget and release is the pain of his or her death.

About the Author:
Ryan Rivera used to suffer from the symptoms of anxiety attacks for seven years.  He now advocates healthy living as the best weapon against anxiety and depression.  You can read more of his articles at Calm Clinic.


  1. This book is also great for those who are comforting a friend or loved one after they had lost a loved one. If you have someone close to you grieving you will not know how to help either. Sounds like a valuable book all way the round.

  2. I still am grieving over the death of my beloved grandmother and this was 13 years ago. I have a hard time talking to anyone about it.

  3. What a great book for everyone because we all at some time in our life will be dealing with grief and mourning, and will need a lot of help when the time comes.

  4. Going through the grieving process is one of the most difficult processes to go through. Like Nancy said, we all at one time or another in our lives will go through it. Death is not the only cause for it either as many of us grieve when harsh disappointments come our way. We all need to learn to cope. It is unfortunately part of life.

  5. This book is a must have for everyone. Grieving at some time in one's life is inevitable and a reality. It is a time where the most support is needed. But the one who is grieving will likely reject support while going through the early stages of it anyway. We all need to be prepared on how to deal with it one way or another.