Wednesday, 26 September 2012

Different Phases or Stages of Grief

Elisabeth K├╝bler-Ross introduced the most famous model on the Stages of grief. She argued that people go through five different stages when confronted by death: denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance.  John Bowlby defined four different stages as numbness, searching and yearning, disorganization and despair, reorganizing and recovery.  No matter how you define these stages, all of them include the same situations: shock, denial, anger, bargaining, guilt, and acceptance.  Contrary to popular belief, you do not have to go through each stage in order to heal. In fact, some people resolve their grief without going through most of these stages.  Rather, these stages describe the possible emotions and reactions a person may experience when grieving, and not a linear progression from one stage to the other.  Grief can swing around; drop you to the ground, pull you forwards or backwards to any stage or phase it pleases. These can be experienced in any order, and some stages can be skipped altogether.  The biggest advantage of understanding these stages is that they do remind you that experiencing these feeling are quite normal behavior.  Grief is personal and unique for every person, and this applies to the possible stages of grief as well.

To learn more, please check out my latest book on Grief From Grief to Peace - Mourning Your Loss. The Healthy Way

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