Tuesday, 10 September 2013

Acknowledging the Grief Experience

Acknowledging the Grief Experience By Steve Wickham

OF ALL THE EXPERIENCES of life, the loneliness and fatigue involved in grief - in a vital period of life readjustment - is unparalleled in its pain.
Rarely, if ever, does one human being escape the grief experience over the lifespan. Everyone grieves. From losses of grand magnitude down to the simple losses of readjustment, life throws us into a tailspin in disordered ways at such unpredictable times. We are blindsided by the experience of life we never expected, and grief moves in, as if a permanent, yet unwelcome, guest. And when this occurs our tenant lives with us much longer, at times, than we wish him to.
All this guest requires of us, however, is the acknowledgement of his presence.
Grief is real and as soon as we take it seriously we are gifted the wherewithal to approach and travel with our pain.
TRAVELLING WITH OUR PAIN

Nobody really enjoys the experience of pain, just as nobody really enjoys having their life interrupted by something incredibly sad - something totally unwanted. We rally in anger for the injustice of loss and attempt to bargain our way out of it. When we realise none of our interventions work we land in the valley of depression.
All of the typical responses to grief are characterised by denial. Yet the key to making the best of a woeful situation is to acknowledge it; it is our truth just now.
One method that works is to travel with our pain, acknowledging it as a seasonal guest; one we must accept is part of our lives now. When we accept such a thing, somehow the pain diminishes a little, and we can bear it because we know that God is with us.
Travelling with our pain is simply empathising with ourselves as if a caring friend would - and it is all the better for us if we can experience divine empathy - the empathy of God that we experience as a soul gentleness and compassion.
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Acknowledgement of the grief experience is an important validation. It releases the brakes that life has placed on our emotional and spiritual wellbeing. It's okay that we struggle for a time in adjusting to the new scenario of life. It's okay because we don't have a choice, so it needs to be okay.
Acknowledgement of the grief experience is the receipt of God's grace. This is when we know God's power within us in a very real way. In simply being honest we are gifted space and freedom in simply accepting our world as it now is. Our world as it now is won't remain this way - for it will get better - but acceptance is all we need right now.

2013 S. J. Wickham.

Steve Wickham is a Baptist Pastor who holds Degrees in Science, Divinity, and Counselling. Steve writes at: http://epitemnein-epitomic.blogspot.com.au/ and http://tribework.blogspot.com.au/

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Thursday, 20 June 2013

Three Reasons Why Kindle Publishing Will Rock Your Business

Three Reasons Why Kindle Publishing Will Rock Your Business

Three Reasons Why Kindle Publishing Will Rock Your Business
By Dan Elstad

The Amazon Kindle Publishing is a great way to build and market your business. Unfortunately, this method is fairly new so not many people know about it. Most of them are still not familiar with this new method of marketing. However, you can use this information asymmetry to your own business advantage. In this article, you'll learn why you should use Kindle Publishing to rapidly build your business. I will reveal three things that Kindle Publishing can do for your business: instant expert status, massive traffic and qualified leads. Let's discuss them one by one below.

When you create your own Kindle books, you will be instantly viewed by your customer and prospect as an expert. We have been programmed to believe that everyone that has created and published a book is an expert. This will make your job to get their trust much easier than if you come to them as a salesman offering your product. People will be more likely to listen to your advice, try out your service, and purchase what you recommend.

Next comes the traffic. We all know that Amazon is the biggest e-commerce site on earth. What can you get when you publish your Kindle book there? Massive traffic! You will get many eyeballs looking at your Kindle book. Compare this to the traditional publishing model where you have to go from one publisher to the next hoping for your book to get published. Kindle publishing is fast and easy. All you have to do is to create the content of your book, format it using Kindle's requirement and submit it to be reviewed. Once it's approved, it will be instantly displayed in the Kindle store. Getting traffic don't have to be hard.

When we speak about traffic, we don't want all the traffic that we can get. We want qualified traffic. In other words, we want traffic that will convert to customer or even fans later on. The search feature and the recommended books section on Amazon will accomplish this task for you. Whenever someone browse for a book, Amazon will automatically recommend similar books that matches their interest. This will filter down the traffic further. The traffic that you get will more likely convert to what you're offering as long as you're consistent with your offer.

By now I hope you've realized how important Kindle publishing can be for your business. It's an easy way to get established as an expert which you can leverage later for conversion. And it's an easy way to get massive traffic without having to spend a lot of money. And lastly, it's an easy way to get qualified leads, which is what all businesses want. There are plenty of subjects that you can write for your first Kindle book but I recommend sticking with what you're already familiar with. If you want to start, make a goal of publishing one Kindle book at first. Once you've done this, you can then scale it up. I wish you the best of luck on your Kindle publishing adventure! To learn more tips and tricks to become successful with Kindle Publishing, please see more here. Ultimate Kindle Publishing

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Friday, 7 June 2013

The Benefits Of Being An Author and Why Writing Kindle Books Can Make It Happen

The Benefits Of Being An Author and Why Writing Kindle Books Can Make It Happen The Benefits Of Being An Author and Why Writing Kindle Books Can Make It Happen
By Val Waldeck
It wasn't that long ago that the only way to get your book published was to play the "waiting game" while major book publishers took their time getting any book published. With their large budgets and total control of all the distribution, it was almost impossible to get your book into any of the major bookstores, like Barnes & Noble or Walden's.
As a new author without a sales reputation, you would also be responsible for the costs of producing your book. Vanity publishing would be your only path to publication. You would be responsible for thousands of dollars to pay for editing and publishing. Many times, if not most, you would have to agree to buy a few thousand copies of your own book.
Kindle publishing is the perfect alternative to the high costs and production delays of traditional publication. The normal delays and disappointments are not part of Kindle's publishing platform.
New authors do have several benefits when they write books for Kindle, regardless of the topic. Self-publishing has changed the way books are published and companies are popping up all over that print on demand or provide services to help new authors get their book published.
One major benefit of publishing on Kindle is the higher royalty rates paid by Kindle when you make sales. Your royalties are based on the price you set for your book when you publish on Kindle. If your book's selling price is set somewhere between $2.99 and $9.99, your royalty is 70% of the sale. If you set a price outside those limits, your percentage drops to 35%. Other publishers offer lower percentages to the author.
Another benefit of self-publishing is that YOU can control all aspects of your book, including the cover design, your book topics and how it is marketed. You don't have to worry about the short 30-60 day shelf-life that most brick and mortar stores use. Digital books on Kindle have a forever shelf-life and you are the one who makes the decision to take your book down or not.
Personally, publishing Kindle books on almost any subject can build your reputation as an author. Your book will build your reputation in your current business, even if the book has nothing to do with your day job. When your co-workers find out that you have a book published on Kindle, your personal reputation will build rapidly.
Another huge benefit of Kindle publishing is how your clients will react to your published book. You will become a person of value in their mind and it could lead to more business and keep you a few steps above your business competition. Your Kindle book can be sent to your clients to mark a new business alliance or just to keep those clients thinking about you and your business.
Once you write your book and get it on Kindle, it could take on a life of its own and build your reputation as a published author. Additional books can be on any subject that attracts your interest. Your scope is worldwide and not restricted to the topic of your first Kindle book.
Send your mother a signed copy and she will never stop talking about her child, the author. That's publicity you can't buy!
Val Waldeck
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Monday, 13 May 2013

>Five Ways Toward Accepting the Death of a Loved One

Five Ways Toward Accepting the Death of a Loved One Five Ways Toward Accepting the Death of a Loved One
By Lou LaGrand
The major task of mourning the death of a loved one is acceptance. That is, accepting the reality that the loved one is no longer with you and accepting the multiplicity of changes that are taking place in your life due to the loss. Resisting inevitable change only leads to more pain.
There are two levels of acceptance. The first, intellectual acceptance is easy to come by. We can acknowledge the death of a loved one. However, emotional acceptance is a different story; it takes a much longer time because it involves the process of withdrawing our emotional investment in the physical presence of the loved one.
Here are five ways you can assure yourself that your grief work will not be prolonged and you can eventually accept the death of your loved one on an emotional level. Much of this is internal work and will call on you to strengthen your inner life.
1. Embrace the fact that life will be different; it is a new life. This means realizing you have to give up some of the old routines involving your beloved. Giving up the old for the new is a major challenge. The inability to commit to this fact of life is what often brings on much depression and you use up precious energy in resisting. Decide as soon as possible that you will accept changes imposed by loss and start doing things that will accommodate change.
2. Realize your social circle and/or support network may be drastically altered. If you are widowed, there are some situations involving couples that you will not be invited to. This is often very difficult to deal with. There are also some people, even good friends, who are fearful of death and will tend to steer clear of conversations about your loved one. You will sense their uneasiness. Simply spend more time with those who meet your needs. And, you may have to search for new friends.
3. Work on reducing the amount of time you give to negative thoughts. Negative thinking involves thoughts about your supposed inability to cope with all your new responsibilities, roles, and challenges. Negative thoughts will never create the courage needed to deal with change. They are the number one force in prolonging grief.
4. Look for support from knowledgeable sources. Seeking knowledge and support from credible resources is very wise. Most mourners grieve deep within based on many myths that were accepted as truths early in life. Look for information in four areas: emotional, (how to manage emotions) spiritual (how best to utilize your faith traditions), physical (how to use exercise to reduce tension and anxiety), and mental (how to use your mind to calm yourself and change focus). All of these will assist in reducing the pain of loss.
Ask yourself in which area you are most lacking and go for it. Read. Ask others who have had similar loss experiences, people who conduct grief support groups, in hospices, churches, or hospitals, or if need be, a professional grief counselor. Every mourner's information needs will differ.
5. All mourners need a companion, an ally, someone who will walk with you through the painful journey. Search for one or more who always lets you be in charge of your grieving, offers choices, and does not tell you what you should be feeling or doing. Bounce your ideas and emotions off this person. Ask for their opinion on specific issues and then decide what you will do based on your analysis of all of the advice you have received.
Acceptance of your great loss is your number one goal. Keep it in the forefront of your thinking as you confront each day. However, don't allow that focus to obscure the various points of healing you experience along the way. You will feel better, and then have a few reversals. As you keep working, the reversals will not hang around as long as they used to. You will think of your loved one with hope and comfort. You will know that you are moving forward as you accommodate loss and change, love in separation as well as in the now, and reinvest in life. Those are the operational definitions of acceptance.
Dr. LaGrand is a grief counselor and the author of eight books, the most recent, the popular Love Lives On: Learning from the Extraordinary Encounters of the Bereaved. He is known world-wide for his research on the Extraordinary Experiences of the bereaved (after-death communication phenomena) and is one of the founders of Hospice of the St. Lawrence Valley, Inc. His free monthly ezine website is http://www.extraordinarygriefexperiences.com
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Thursday, 11 April 2013

Mourning and Grief - The Personal and Public Signs

Mourning and Grief - The Personal and Public Signs

Mourning and Grief - The Personal and Public Signs
By Lisette M Laval

Grief usually refers to the personal inner feelings of an individual but in some cultures, when someone dies, family members and close friends express their grief outwardly by weeping and wailing.

The onset of grief is from the moment a person becomes aware of the death of a loved one. At this point they begin the process of grief, which has not set time, as grief affects everyone in different ways. The intensity of the feelings associated with grief depends on the circumstances of the loss, the closeness of the relationship and the conditioning of the person who has experienced the loss.

Mourning is the outward expression of grief through signs and rituals which include special behaviour and clothing of the bereaved, in keeping with family traditions, religion and culture. There is no set period for the process of mourning, which extends from the onset of grief to the time when the bereaved has come to terms with the loss and adjusted to the changes that occur in their lives as a result of the death. This period is different for everyone.

Expressions of mourning differ according to culture, religious beliefs, and family traditions of the bereaved. Many Religions have strict rituals that have to be followed during the period of mourning. Some rituals begin from the time of death and continue up to the first anniversary of the death.

Some of the external signs of individuals in mourning are:

Wearing dark clothing or special mourning jewellery

Withdrawing from social activities like parties, dances, etc.

Not listening to music or participating in entertainment like concerts, movies, etc.

Postponing family celebration like birthdays, engagements or weddings for a period of time after the death

Visiting the grave on a regular basis.

When a prominent figure in society dies or when there is another significant loss that affects the community, there are common public signs of acknowledgement of the loss and respect to members of the family who are in mourning. Some of these are:

Giving right of way to the hearse and cars in a funeral procession

Players of a sporting club wearing black armbands during a game when a member of the club or someone closely connected with the sport dies

Observing a period of silence in honour of the deceased person prior to a public function; and

Flying flags at half-mast.

It is important to be aware of the personal signs of those who are in mourning and grief and to understand the public signs of acknowledgement and respect when someone of prominence dies, so that those in mourning and grief can to be supported and treated with respect and compassion during this period when they are in a vulnerable state.

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Rituals And Routines That Help Mourning

Rituals And Routines That Help Mourning Rituals And Routines That Help Mourning
By Lou LaGrand
Rituals and routines have a powerful effect on how we feel when mourning the death of a loved one. In fact, daily informal rituals and routines are at the very core of the quality of life one experiences. And you don't need a lot of them to brighten any given day. Are you aware of what you do each day that is a repeat of the day before, how it shapes your attitude, and what initiates that specific routine response? After several days or even weeks, depending on individual circumstances and beliefs, the time comes when accepting the new circumstances of life has to be faced. New rituals and routines is the answer.
A routine is considered to be a regular course or procedure that is followed. Rituals are commonly considered to be spiritual or religious rites of various types and can be of a formal or informal nature. Whether spiritual or secular, daily activities can be planned and carried out by any mourner with a particular intention in mind. Here are several that have helped many mourners in adapting to life without the physical presence of their loved ones.
1. Begin by assessing your current daily routines and how they are affecting you physically or emotionally or both. For example, are you eating more mood foods (which are usually processed foods that are pro inflammatory) or drinking more coffee or alcohol than usual? Are you repeating behaviors as though your loved one is still physically present and its painful? Bottom line: are your routines and rituals hurting or helping your ability to adapt to a new normal.
2. Outdoor routines. Excessive isolation is a major cause of unnecessary suffering, especially if you are saddled with large amounts of unscheduled time. Be sure to leave your home each day to go where you will be around other people and converse with them. They don't always have to be good friends. Here is a possibility to consider. Instead of having coffee at home each morning, start going to a local coffee shop, gasoline station, chain grocery store or restaurant. Become a regular. Speak to the person behind the counter. Or your stop could be at the library. Perhaps your trip out could include window shopping. Consider finding a productive group to join, one that is right for you.
3. Nature routines. Nature can have a soothing or relaxing effect physically. Find a place that you like to visit that is filled with natural beauty. Put yourself in that environment and focus on the trees, birds, and natural sounds. Smell the salty air or feel the breeze. If there is a park near your home consider it one of your destinations in creating a new routine. If you live near a body of water go to the shore as part of your nature exploration.
4. Exercise routines. Mourners especially need physical outlets for all of the anxiety that builds each day when thinking of the loved one. Your body pays close attention to every word you say to yourself and every though you entertain. The sadness and loneliness builds anxiety that increases tension in muscle. The need for physical outlets for emotional stimuli is critical. Start a walking routine. It can include prayer walking. It has been said that prayer is exercise for the soul. Some mourners I have worked with have joined the YMCA or a local exercise facility. Stretch your muscles regularly through Yoga or progressive relaxation.
5. Gratitude rituals. Focusing on gratitude can have a major impact on your inner life. Some people keep a gratitude list and at the close of each day jot down what they are grateful for on that particular day. Others get on their knees at night or the first thing in the morning and give thanks for what they still have. Still others begin the ritual of talking to the deceased loved one. Be especially grateful to those who listen to you and are willing to be around your pain. As Paul Tillich reminds us, "The first duty of love is to listen." Consider his observation as you remember those who listen and do not try to steer you to their agenda for grieving.
6. Kindness rituals. Reaching out to others is easier than you think. There are multiple times during the day when we see friends or strangers where a kind gesture can be offered. A simple "thank you" is in itself an act of love. The power and impact of giving and receiving love is commonly forgotten. Holding a door open for someone, taking a shopping cart back to the store for an elderly person, letting someone know you are thinking about them (and love them) even as you grieve, or making a donation to someone in great need are examples of simple expressions of kindness. Think about your present level of kindness and what you can do to increase your kindness quotient.
7. Morning rituals or routines. How do you start your day? Do you have something planned or are you a reactive mourner who simply takes whatever shows up in your thoughts? Get a jump on your day by having a routine or ritual mapped out ahead of time. It can be a major step forward. Think about what you can do to immediately start your day off in a way that enhances self-esteem. Look for something you might accomplish first thing in the morning either by calling someone, doing a household task, or reading an uplifting paragraph or inspirational quote.
In conclusion, keep in mind that one of the tasks of grieving is the creation of new routines. Everything we used to do with our loved one is now quite different without him/her. Grief is transformative. Use the changes it demands as a stimulus to creating useful routines. There are numerous rituals and routines to choose from depending on your interests and belief systems that can help you ease into your new life. Be open to the new and choose to strengthen useful existing routines and rituals or start new ones.
Dr. LaGrand is a grief counselor and the author of eight books, the most recent, Healing Grief, Finding Peace: 101 Ways to Cope with the Death of Your Loved One. He is known world-wide for his research on the Extraordinary Experiences of the bereaved (after-death communication phenomena) and was the founding President of Hospice & Palliative Care of the St. Lawrence Valley, Inc. His monthly ezine-free website is http://www.extraordinarygriefexperiences.com.
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Thursday, 28 March 2013

Good Grief. Submitted by: Michael Brickey, Ph.D.

Good Grief

Submitted by: Michael Brickey, Ph.D.

As a psychologist I have worked with many people who were stuck in grief. They speak about losing someone with poignant emotion–as if it happened yesterday. But it happened years ago, sometimes decades ago. Some people, however, deal with loss very effectively and come to terms with a loss within a few months. What accounts for the difference? Those who deal effectively have better mental strategies for dealing with loss.

People who get stuck often form unresourceful visual images in their mind’s eye. Perhaps it is everyone gathered around the table for Christmas dinner–but there is the empty chair where momma is supposed to be. This image freezes the loss in time. It compares a picture of the way Christmas “is supposed to be” with the absence of momma and concludes that Christmas will never be the same again. Other people who get stuck see mom (or whomever they lost) in a hospital bed, wasting away with tubes and machines droning on. This image of mom is sure to elicit sad feelings. The empty chair or hospital bed scenes, however, are only two of billions of possible images. They do not represent the essence of who mom was. More resourceful images would have her with the family, or in a favorite activity, or a symbol that embodies her fine qualities.

Let me make an analogy with computers. When you turn on a computer, you get a default image on the screen. You can click options to have the computer change the default image to a more useful image. The first image is still in the computer if you need it, but the more useful image is now the default. If you have an unresourceful default image, change it to a resourceful image that honors the person who lived.

If you see the person in your mind’s eye, you can change the image and thereby change how you feel. Moving the image away from your head, making the image smaller, making it black and white, and making it dimmer, all make the image less intense. Conversely, making an image closer to your head, bigger, colorful, and bright usually makes an image more intense. Try it. The idea is to make resourceful images intense and unresourceful images seem to be a distant, far away memory.

Much of the literature on grieving emphasizes beliefs that are contrary to effective grieving. One author referred to her husband dying as “amputation without anesthesia.” This is a vivid metaphor that fosters self-pity rather than healing. Another author talked about how profoundly pervasive the death of a parent was and how she viewed everything in her life as “BDD–Before Dad Died–and the ADD–After Dad Died.” This approach intensifies the anguish as opposed to seeing parents dying as the natural order of things and oneself as mature enough to handle.

Art Linkletter, whose daughter committed suicide at 19 and son died in an automobile accident at 32 put it this way: “Too many people who lose others–mothers, fathers, children, friends–become people who see grief as a tent pole for their life. They cherish it almost, they clutch it to them, they never let it go, and that grief becomes the impelling force for a negative, bitter, unhappy, vengeful unforgiving life. Other people, like myself, use it as a springboard for being a better person and for enjoying life more and for appreciating all the good things in it as a counter to the other things that are going to happen.”

You can care and feel without feeling every death is tragic. Most deaths aren’t a tragedy. A tragedy is not living life fully, a list of what ifs, and not connecting with life. For many people the tragedy occurred years ago when they numbed themselves to experiencing life fully. As poet Stephen Vincent Benet put it, “Life is not lost by dying; life is lost minute by minute, day by dragging day, in all the thousand small uncaring ways.” For those who have lived a full life but disease has greatly compromised their lives, death can be a relief.

People who deal effectively with loss often see the deceased as an ongoing presence in their lives. A humorous but good example is Fred Sanford from the television show Sanford and Son. When Fred (played by Red Foxx) was having a hard time he would feign “having the big one” (a heart attack). He would then look up and talk with his deceased wife Elizabeth. He wasn’t crazy. He just knew her so well that he could sense her presence, imagine a conversation with her, and gain comfort and guidance from the experience. Actually, he probably got along better with her after her death than in real life as he was a cantankerous character. Many religious people find it easy to think of the person who lived as an ongoing presence or to imagine the person communicating with them from a better place.

Many people believe in an afterlife when it comes to their own lives but neglect to try to imagine their loved one already in a better place.

Teachers and professors are particularly good role models for letting go. They have their students for only a year or a few years and then must focus on inspiring a new cadre of students. Do they complain that they can’t bear to let their babies go? No, they realize that it is time for the students to leave the nest and fly. While they could become sad at the students leaving, they instead are joyful to see them move on to new challenges. They feel enriched and invigorated from having worked with them. They have a vision of helping to change the world.

We too need to appreciate the rhythms of life and work with them rather than fight them.

About the Author: Dr. Michael Brickey, The Anti-Aging Psychologist, teaches people to think, feel, look and be more youthful. He is an inspiring keynote speaker and the Oprah-featured author of Defy Aging and 52 baby steps to Grow Young. Visit http://www.NotAging.com for a free report and a free newsletter.

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Friday, 15 March 2013

Overcoming Grief

Overcoming Grief

Submitted by: Brian Jones

During my first year of college a life-long family friend and mentor tragically lost his son. Separated by distance, I assumed that his Christian friends, the staff at his church, and his Sunday school class would step in and wrap their arms around him and his wife. Needless to say I was surprised, one year later, when we were able to finally meet face to face. When I asked him how he and his wife were doing the first words out of his mouth were, “Brian, the church failed us during our greatest time of need.” Knowing first-hand his maturity and emotional soundness, I was taken back. I thought, “If he said the church failed them, the church must have really failed them.”

Those who experience tragic loss, which I’m sure will include all of us by the time we leave this planet, experience sorrow that defies explanation. C.S. Lewis, struggling to put into words how he felt after losing his wife commented,

“No one ever told me that grief felt so much like fear. I am not afraid, but the sensation is like being afraid. The same fluttering in the stomach, the yawning. I keep on swallowing.” (A Grief Observed , p. 19)

And if there was ever someone besides Lewis that couldn’t put their finger on the depth of their grief, it had to be Naomi.

The Book of Ruth tells us that Naomi was happily married to a man named Elimilech and together they had two strong sons, Mahlon and Kilion. As life goes, business took her family to a foreign country-a place called Moab. But even in that distant land their family blossomed. Life was good. Then, without even the faintest hint that heartbreak was standing at her door, Naomi’s husband didn’t return home for dinner. Who could have known that their kiss that morning would have been their last? Her sons eventually married, but even their weddings and talk of children couldn’t take away the emptiness she felt. Finally, in a cruel twist that even Hollywood wouldn’t script, she lost both of her sons. She was devastated, alone and bewildered. Naomi was so broken that Ruth 1:20 tells us that she began asking people to not call her Naomi (meaning “pleasant”) anymore but Mara (meaning “bitter”).

The bright spot, if there can be a bright spot in someone’s tragic loss, is that there was someone who didn’t leave her. Her name was Ruth, her daughter-in-law. We’re told she didn’t offer any deep theological explanations. There’s no record that she tried to provide the “right word” at the “right time.” All we hear is Ruth’s promise in Ruth 1:16, “Where you go I will go, and where you stay, I will stay.” And that’s exactly what she did.

I never asked my friend what his church could have done differently. I didn’t feel that it was my place.

My guess? Unlike Ruth, there were probably too many words and too few visits.

About the Author: Brian Jones is the author of Second Guessing God: Hanging on When You Can’t See Plan (March 2006) and the founding Senior Pastor of Christ’s Church of the Valley in Collegeville, PA. More information about his writing and speaking can be found at http://www.brianjones.com.

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Monday, 4 March 2013

Write A Book and Make Residual Income

Write A Book and Make Residual Income
By Brad Forbush

The initial thought of writing a book of any size is daunting to the average person. If you like to write or have a great idea of which to write about, you should give it a shot. It may not seem like passive income at first because you will be putting in a lot of hours and time to write the book. Yet, in the long run, it will become an income source once it's published.

Most people have said at some point in their life that they should write a book about their life, their experiences, or a topic they feel strongly about. Yet, most people never get around to it. If you do decide to write and finish the book, it can become an income source for you in the years to come. After publishing the book, it will be sitting the stores and every sale yields a percentage to you, the author. It could be up to five years later and your book is still selling and bringing in income. Once you've become an author that people enjoy and read diligently, it can be a good idea to write more so that your fans will have more books to buy. Not every book, especially first books, will be a success. It does take a lot of work to write a book yet the results can be well-worth it. The passive income it can produce will help you reach your goals.

If you decide to write a book as a way to earn passive income, you should consider several things ahead of time. It may take years for the publishers to give your book the green light for publishing. It may not sell as well you'd hope it would. Writing the book itself may prove to be more difficult than you imagined. While these are negatives, the positives are also present in the book writing process. You can decide when and where to write. You can decide what to say and how to say it. This is your book, your masterpiece, and by what you will be remembered. Don't decide on a topic unless you know something about it or want to know more about it. The book writing process will be easier if you enjoy what you're writing about and feel as though you can move quickly through the topics and ideas. If you have to struggle with every page, every chapter, the book will never get and you will never see that passive income. It can be a great feeling to get a royalties check even after your book has been available to the public for a while.

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Sunday, 3 March 2013

Grief: The Different Types

By Christine Brownlee
Grief is the result of a loss. When we are looking at grief as the result of a loss of a loved one we will find that it doesn't happen just at the end of a life but will occur over the many losses that happen during the illness and then afterwards. There will be losses to grieve throughout the journey and not just at the time of the final outcome. Examples are when you and your loved one are unable to attend a joyous family event, travel plans are put on hold or cancelled altogether, or you stop working to become a full time caregiver.
Grief can present itself in a number of ways depending on the circumstances of the death and the person who is grieving. The process of grieving is based on the person's perception of the loss. Healthy grief is a normal process but it is a lot of very hard work. It takes physical and mental energy to cope with all the changes and challenges and at times it will seem insurmountable..
Anticipatory grief is the grieving that takes place before the actual death of the loved one has occurred. This grief can begin at the time of a terminal illness diagnosis. It is the sense of impending loss with grieving beginning immediately. This type of grieving will be interwoven with the activities surrounding the treatment and care of the terminally ill person. Those that are grieving are doing so in anticipation of an expected death, date unknown. This is normal.
The above two types of grief can usually be completed when the grieving person does the work required with the help of family, friends and community. Other services such as counselling and coaching can be very beneficial in helping the bereaved person reach completion of their grief sooner rather than later.
There are times when grieving becomes unhealthy and requires some stronger intervention. Absent grief may be present when a person who has just suffered a loved one's loss and they do not exhibit any signs of grieving. They carry on as though everything is just fine and they seem to be managing effortlessly. This person may be taking great pride in coping so well. However it may also mean that they do not receive the family and community support that they do need because it looks like they don't need it. Grief will only be absent for so long. It will remain and the grief work will still need to be done whether it is now or some many years down the road. This can happen when a widow feels she needs to be "strong" for the children however, once they are grown the grief will still be there.
Unresolved grief occurs when the normal healthy grieving process cannot occur. There are different reasons for this happening. Someone who is too sick and frail to do the grief work could have unresolved grief. If there is so much guilt and the grieving person cannot move past this level of emotion and reach completeness there is unresolved grief. This type of grief can also occur if there are multiple losses such as a family is killed in a car crash or if someone is presumed dead but there is no body. Families of a missing person who has been gone for years can have unresolved grief.
Complicated grief is the presentation of the symptoms of the grieving person but they are exaggerated and continue on for a long time. When we first hear of the death of a loved one we feel some shock, denial, anger and deep sadness. Doing the work of grief we will eventually become complete with the loss. The process will resemble a roller coaster with good days and bad. Complicated grief appears as being in the valley with the initial symptoms never being resolved. There are never any "good" days or moments. The man whose son dies and five years later he has trouble managing the activities of daily living, he has lost his job because he cannot work, and his marriage has fallen apart are signs of complicated grief.
Disenfranchised grief occurs when the person grieving cannot openly display their grief. This can be because of the societal or cultural values that have been placed on them. An example would be the mistress of a man who has died. The man's wife, who is now the accepted widow can display and receive support for her grief. The mistress, if it was a secret affair, would not be able to receive the same support. She may even be shunned for grieving.
Absent grief, unresolved grief, complicated grief and disenfranchised grief can be types of grief that are not healthy and can have a detrimental effect on the person grieving. This can seriously affect them physically and emotionally leaving deep psychological issues affecting their quality of life. These types may mean the person grieving will need additional professional support in the form of mental health counselling, prescribed medications and therapies.
If you are grieving which one are you?
Christine is a RN with 35+ years of experience. She is a certified "From Heartbreak to Happiness" Grief Coach specializing in encouraging and inspiring women whose partner has died or is dying to reconnect with their life dreams and soar from sadness and sorrow to peace and happiness. She is currently working on her book 'A Caregiver's Story' - 7 Tips to Navigate and find Balance. This book stems from her being in the caregiving role for her husband on and off for the last 20 years. Visit her website http://www.griefcoach.ca for more information.
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Saturday, 2 March 2013

Get Articles Written: Learning a Few Tips That Will Surely Improve Your Writing

Get Articles Written: Learning a Few Tips That Will Surely Improve Your Writing

Submitted by: Ryan Pauline

If you want to get articles written and make sure that these are of the highest quality, then you should consider researching about the many things that you can do to further improve your writing skills. You also have to develop a good writing plan in order to ensure that you continue to write contents that are guaranteed to capture the attention of readers and stay in their minds. The following are some of the most effective tips that will allow you to produce hundreds of high quality contents that are sure to stay in the minds of your readers:

1. Choose the right topic. Determine the specific market or niche where you have a lot of experience and knowledge and write about them. You have to be familiar about the topics that you are writing in order for your written articles to be effective. You should also remember that ideas for your topics are everywhere. This means that with proper research, you will get the chance to improve your knowledge about specific topics and make your articles even more powerful.

2. Create a good title. The title is one of the most essential components of an article since this is capable of grabbing attention. Writing a good title which gives potential readers an idea about what your article is about is a huge help in encouraging them to read further. Creating a good title will also allow you to effectively direct the flow of your articles.

3. Build a good outline. This is another tip that will surely let you get articles written without sacrificing quality. What you need to do is to establish the major points of the article that you are planning to write and its supporting details. You do not need to completely write your outline. This means that you can build a good one just by visualizing it in your mind. Once you are done building your outline, you can start expanding it in order to construct the article body. A wise tip is to format all the information in the outline in such a manner that you can effectively deliver your message to your audience. You should also consider breaking out its major points in bullet points or separate paragraphs in order for it to become even more readable.

4. Keep in mind that all writers are not perfect. In fact, there are times when the most experienced writers get scared when delivering their articles to the public. But despite the fear experienced by most writers, a lot of them still manage to succeed because they are determined enough to push their limits. This is also something that you should do. You should continue writing even if it is true that your articles won’t please everyone. You should persist until you earn the rewards of your hard work.

5. Take time to review your articles. If you want to get articles written and make sure that it does not contain errors that will only ruin your reputation as a writer and drive your potential readers away, then you should spend time reviewing all your written articles. A wise tip is to familiarize yourself with the editorial guidelines of your employer so you will know if your contents fit their standards.

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Wednesday, 27 February 2013

Five Article Writing Skills

Submitted by: Ryan Pauline

Being a freelance writer can be a more difficult field to break into then people realize, but it is very possible to succeed and thrive if you work hard and are determined. Here are five skills that can help a beginning freelance writer succeed.

Determination- If you want to be a writer and stay in the field, be prepared for rejection. Rejection is not a bad thing. Sometimes you might get feedback to help you improve in the field. If you or your works are turned away by a potential client, do not give up. Keep on applying, keep on improving and get your foot in the door.

Marketability- Write as much as you can, in any style about any topic that you can and you may find that clients and employers will be looking for you because you can right in the style that they are looking for, instead of putting yourself in one specific niche. Marketability can open up so many more doors.

Work Hard- When you are your own employer, the amount of money that you make and the traffic that you develop depends on how much you can promote yourself and how much business you can develop. That all falls on you, the writer. Check out all the freelancing job boards and there are a lot of them. Make a name for yourself on those boards and apply, apply, apply.

Follow Directions- If you are a freelancing article writer or any kind of freelance writer, one of the reasons that you may be getting in the field is that you don't want someone hovering over your shoulder, seeing how productive you are being. That means it is basically up to you to start working and get the projects done that you are assigned and it is up to you to follow directions even in the application and bidding for project process. Clients are going to look for someone who can follow their vision and goals for their projects and they want someone who can pay attention to small details. You might even come across some job listings where they will ask you to type in a few words in your proposal to make sure that you are paying attention and not just bidding randomly.

Time Management- Again, as a freelance writer, more likely than not, you are not bound to a set schedule. This can be one of the best feelings in the world and it can also be one of the worst, especially when you have a deadline and you realize in horror that you are not even close to meeting it because instead of writing, you decided to go on a day trip. Manage time wisely. Sometimes it might be a good idea to start working on an assignment or project as soon as it is received and write in blocks of time so it is not too overwhelming.

Hopefully, these are traits that can help one build a successful freelance article writing career.

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Tuesday, 26 February 2013

Writing and Self-Publishing Your Own Ebooks: A Look at How Much Can You Realistically Expect to Earn

By Yuwanda Black
I started writing and selling ebooks online in 2004. To date, I've written and self-published over 50. Hence, I receive a lot of questions from aspiring ebook writers about the process. And, one of the most frequently asked questions is about sales. For example, one aspiring author contacted me, asking the following:
I am considering writing an ebook, just for some sort of income. I realize... that it's not possible to project the income from any one particular book, but could you give me some probability estimate? If I could write and promote an ebook and generate a couple of thousand dollars in a year, I would consider that a success.

Writing an Ebook? How to Increase Your Chance of Making Money Selling It
I responded to this author, basically telling him that how profitable an ebook is depends on a host of factors. Hence, it's literally impossible to assure him that he could earn even "a couple of thousand dollars in a year." No one can guarantee anyone that if they wrote an ebook - on any subject - how many copies it's likely to sell.
If you run across some program that guarantees you can earn hundreds or thousands of dollars a day selling ebooks online, then run. It's not true. There simply are no guarantees - if there were, big publishers like Random House would have figured it out by now; trust me. With that being said, there are things you can do to increase your chance of writing an ebook that will sell.
Ebook Marketing: As a Self-Published Author of Over 50 Ebooks, Here are 3 Things I Do All the Time to Ensure Sales
Following are three ebook selling tips. In 2010, over half of my income came from ebooks I wrote and sold online. These three tips are from my own personal experience - ebook marketing strategies I use all the time.
Research: Do keyword research to determine if there's a wide enough market for you to make sales. No matter how good your ebook is, if there aren't enough potential customers to sell it to, then you won't make very many - or any - sales.
Ebook Marketing Plan: You must, must, must have an ebook marketing plan that you follow religiously. For example, I like article marketing. It's free and it dispenses helpful, first-hand information to prospective buyers. It's one of the most effective ebook sales tools in my marketing arsenal.
If article marketing isn't for you, there's also blogging, newsletter publishing, PPC ads, affiliate marketing, etc. The ways to market your ebook are only limited by your imagination. But, whatever marketing you do, remain consistent with it.
Many who what to know how to write and sell ebooks online think that writing an ebook is the hard part. That's not true. The hard part is the marketing - because it's constant. You can never let up.
Price It to Sell: How to price an ebook is not an exact science. After publishing over 50, it's something I still tweak all the time. One way to set your price is to go on major sites like Amazon and Barnes & Noble to see what other ebooks - in your niche - are selling for.
How to Make Money Selling Ebooks: Conclusion
If you have a wide enough market interested in what you want to write about; a concrete marketing plan that you following consistently; and price your ebook right (ie, price it to sell), then you will make sales. This I can almost guarantee if you put out a quality product. However, one thing I can't guarantee is how many ebooks you will sell.
It took me about six years to start earning five figures per year selling my ebooks online. But, the beautiful thing about self-publishing is that once an ebook is written, it's done. And, you can ostensibly earn money from it forever. It's kinda like having a backup retirement fund - which is pretty cool!
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Monday, 25 February 2013

How to Cope with Anticipatory Grief

How to Cope with Anticipatory Grief How to Cope with Anticipatory Grief
By Lorraine Kember
Anticipatory grief is the name given to the mix of emotions experienced when we are living in expectation of loss and grieving because of it. Anticipatory Grief is particularly relevant to those who have received a terminal diagnosis and for those who love and care for them.
Terminal diagnosis changes the very structure of our existence, takes away our control and our ability to hope and plan for the future. When someone we love is given a terminal illness, we become painfully aware of the fragility of life and may even fear for our own mortality.
Living in expectation of death, causes us to experience many of the symptoms and emotions of the grief suffered when a loved one has actually died, including; shock, anger, denial, physical and emotional pain, helplessness and sorrow. Depression is common and changes in eating, sleeping and bowel habits may also occur.
Prognosis increases our turmoil; it is inevitable that we begin counting down the days to the estimated time of demise and see the dawn of each day as bringing us closer to it. Some may feel a sense of surrealness and an inability to fit back into the pattern of life prior to diagnosis, this often intensified by the reaction of friends and acquaintances, who may be dealing with their own shock and dismay at the news and not knowing what to do or say, avoid us.
It may be some time before we can truly accept that our loved one is dying and during this time we may experience alternate periods of acceptance and denial. Often, necessity brings about acceptance for the Carer as they need to make decisions regarding the best options available for the care of their loved ones. The patient however, may choose not to accept the prognosis and it is important for the carer to recognise and support their need to live in hope of a cure. Hope, is paramount to quality of life for their loved one and may even contribute to their longer survival.
Whether our grief is anticipatory or grief due to the death of a loved one, there is a very real need to talk to someone about the roller coaster of emotions we are experiencing. This however is not always easy to do, due to a number of reasons which may include; trying to remain strong for the patient, trying to remain strong for the children, trying to put on a brave face for other family members and friends.
Counseling, though readily available, is resisted by many, who believe that no one could possibly understand what they are feeling, nor do anything about the outcome.
Speaking from my own experience of anticipatory grief due my husband's terminal illness, I initially had these feelings and it was with some trepidation that I went to my first counselling session. Upon hearing my story, the counsellor cried, further strengthening my opinion that she could not possibly help me. I was mistaken; after a few visits I began to see the benefit of these sessions and looked forward to seeing her each week. Here, for a short time at least, I could stop acting as if everything was okay - when nothing was okay, here I could take off my brave face and let my defenses down.
The only trouble with counseling is that it may not always be available when you need it. I highly recommend keeping a personal diary for these occasions. During the two years of my husbands terminal illness, my diary was without a doubt, my strongest coping tool, I wrote in it daily, often in the form of poetry, pouring my anger, my fear and my heartache on to the pages. Periodically, I would read back through it and through this I came to know myself very well - later I could see my strength coming through.




Excerpts and poems from my diary now form a major part of my book "Lean on Me" Cancer through a Carer's Eyes.
Article written by: Lorraine Kember Author of 'Lean on Me' Cancer through a Carer's Eyes. Lorraine's book is written from her experience of caring for her dying husband in the hope of helping others. It includes insight and discussion on: Anticipatory Grief, Understanding and identifying pain, Pain Management and Symptom Control, Chemotherapy, Palliative Care, Quality of Life and Dying at home. It also features excerpts and poems from her personal diary. Highly recommended by the Cancer Council. 'Lean on Me' is not available in bookstores - For detailed information, Doctor's recommendations, Reviews, Book Excerpts and Ordering Facility - visit her website http://www.cancerthroughacarerseyes.jkwh.com
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Saturday, 23 February 2013

Three Unfortunate Misconceptions About Kindle Ebook Publishing

Three Unfortunate Misconceptions About Kindle Ebook Publishing

Submitted by: Marcia Yudkin

Take a look around you the next time you visit a quiet beach, and I’m sure you’ll see that besides the men and women who have plopped themselves down with a paperback novel under the shade of an umbrella, numerous others are reading material on their Kindle. Amazon has sold millions of these devices in the last few years, to the point that mainstream consumers who aren’t particularly gadget lovers are using them.

In many cases, those Kindle users are reading books that also are on sale in bookstores and available for borrowing in libraries. But did you know that thousands of authors and entrepreneurs are now earning extra money and in a few cases a very good living writing content specifically to be sold for Kindle?

I've identified three misconceptions that keep some writers and experts from pursuing this exciting new entrepreneurial opportunity.

Misconception #1: You need a Kindle ereader to get involved in publishing for Kindle.

In fact, you don't need a Kindle device either to read works published for Kindle or to publish them. Amazon provides free tools for reading Kindle ebooks on your PC, Mac, iPad, iPhone or other smartphone. Amazon also provides everything you need for publishing your works for Kindle without owning a Kindle yourself.

I don't own a Kindle. I much prefer reading traditional books. However, I have painlessly published 19 ebooks for Kindle. You can, too.

Misconception #2: You need to write a full-length book to get involved in Kindle publishing.

This is also not true. Although six of my Kindle ebooks are digital versions of previously published paperback books, the other 13 are Kindle originals and only a fraction of their length. The shortest is just a little over 5,000 words. It prints out off my computer at 17 pages.

As long as you alert potential buyers to the shorter length of your compact ebook and price it accordingly, you can earn money from selling short reports on Kindle.

Misconception #3: You need to be a technical whiz to format a manuscript for publication on Kindle.

This used to be difficult. Amazon has now simplified the process by allowing properly formatted "doc" files to be uploaded for conversion to Kindle format. Amazon performs the conversion, and you can check in their online previewer to see if the Kindle version looks the way you intended it.

Now, if you can manage formatting a Word file according to easy-to-follow instructions, you can upload your work to the Kindle store without struggling with software or paying for technical help. Smashwords offers an excellent free style guide to preparing your manuscript for uploading to Amazon. Look for it in the left column of their home page.

If you enjoy writing, if you have files and files of useful content, if you have reports that are no longer selling from your website but could be easily updated, if you gave up on finding a traditional publisher for a manuscript you still love - these are all great reasons to look into Kindle publishing now. Chances are, any excuses you still have not to do it also involve misconceptions!

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